We’re Not Waiting Anymore
For your becoming, your joy, and your November plans.
We spend so much of our lives waiting for permission to see ourselves clearly.
When I get the job, then I’ll feel accomplished. When I find the partner, then I’ll feel worthy. When someone recognizes my work, then it will count. When I’m consistent enough, good enough, visible enough then I’ll let myself celebrate.
But the truth is, we aren’t waiting on any of those things. We’re waiting on ourselves. We keep minimizing what’s already here because we’re convinced the “real” life hasn’t begun yet. We survive impossible moments, we learn new things, we build quietly in the dark yet we don’t let it count because it doesn’t look big enough from the outside.
Meanwhile, life is unfolding now; in the small acts of trying again, in the joy of beginning, in the courage it takes to heal without applause.
What if you’ve already walked through the door you think you’re waiting to enter?
The permission you’re seeking is internal. You can choose to see yourself, to honor what’s already happening, to let your effort and softness and survival be enough right now.
You are not late. You are not behind. Give yourself permission, you are becoming. And that’s already everything!
Here’s what I’m excited about this November. Pull up, show up, and enjoy.
Monday, November 10
🎭 Soul Soirée: The Monologue Slam (Powered by BET)
A night amplifying emerging Black performance talent — intimate, electric, and expressive.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 10, 6 PM
🎟️ https://www.tickpick.com/organizer/event/soul-soir%C3%A9e-presents-the-monologue-slam-powered-by-bet-23016699
Thursday, November 13
🧠 metabolizing anger (mbodywell x The Healing Collective)
A somatic group session to explore anger as information, energy, and release.
📍Virtual | 🗓️ November 13, 6:30 PM
🎟️ https://www.thehealingcollectivepractice.com/offerings/metabolizinganger-94pm9
💬 Womanly x CORE: Talk Back
A community dialogue unpacking care, wellness, and the realities of womanhood.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 13, 6 PM
🎟️ https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womanly-x-core-talk-back-tickets-1955987714909
Saturday, November 15
👩🏾💼 Women In Charge Summit 2025
A full-day leadership summit centering women of color, storytelling, and collective growth.
📍NYC | 🗓️ November 15, 9 AM
🎟️ https://www.onegirlny.org/wic
🖼️ Studio Museum in Harlem Re-Opening
A historic return — celebrating community, legacy, and contemporary Black art.
📍Harlem | 🗓️ November 15, 11 AM
🎟️ https://www.studiomuseum.org/exhibitions-and-events
🍹 Galavanting
A slow-burn day mixer — cocktails, music, and golden-hour warmth.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 15, 4 PM
🎟️ https://posh.vip/e/galavanting-20
🎶 MORERNBPLEASE
Late-night grooves rooted in love, nostalgia, and silky R&B.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 15, 10 PM
🎟️ https://posh.vip/e/morernbplease-isola-brooklyn-1
Sunday, November 16
⛸️ Community Skate: Xanadu x Asafespace
Roller-skating joy + music + movement therapy.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 16, 1 PM
🎟️ https://asafespacementor.org/recreation
🎧 Vinyl Listening Session 013: Voodoo
A communal deep listen of D’Angelo’s masterpiece — warmth, grain, groove.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 16, 4:30 PM
🎟️ https://posh.vip/e/vinyl-listening-session-013-voodoo
Tuesday, November 18
🍽️ To Be Hosted Supper Club #31
A shared table, intentional conversation, intimacy through food.
📍NYC | 🗓️ November 18, 6 PM
🎟️ https://www.opentable.com/booking/experiences-availability?rid=1319053&experienceId=558253
Thursday, November 20
🔥 Heat House: The Road to Nairobi
Afrohouse, drums, basslines, sweat, and late-night transcendence.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 20, 10 PM
🎟️ https://dice.fm/event/xek75e-heat-house-the-road-to-nairobi-ft-wemi-friends-20th-nov-silo-brooklyn-brooklyn-tickets
Friday, November 21
🌶️ Ginja
High-vibration movement. Sweat, rhythm, release.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 21, 10 PM
🎟️ https://dice.fm/event/nv86m3-ginja-21st-nov-silo-brooklyn-brooklyn-tickets
Sunday, November 23
🥾 Give Thanks Hikeish!
Gratitude in motion — a community hike + morning reset.
📍Location shared upon RSVP | 🗓️ November 23, 9 AM
🎟️ https://pz1s3ciz0f3.typeform.com/to/Y3qIfF2x
🔥 Lowkey Fire
A cozy, music-driven night rooted in warmth, softness, and connection.
📍Brooklyn | 🗓️ November 23, 8 PM
🎟️ https://www.instagram.com/lowfinyc/
What I’m Reading, Listening To, & Loving…
What I love about what Julia Harrison created with saloon is how intentional and generous the platform is. It’s not just a newsletter, it’s a living space for creatives to gather, share work, find opportunities, collaborate, and feel seen. It is definitely one of my favorite subscriptions and it’s finally back after a little break! Julia built a system that removes gatekeeping and replaces it with genuine community care.
If you’re looking for a way to settle your nervous system before bed, this is a beautiful place to start. I’ve been ending my days with this Louise Hay - Evening Meditation from the You Can Heal Your Life podcast, and it’s been a grounding way to soften the my evening. The meditation invites you to release whatever you’ve been carrying, to forgive yourself for not doing it all, and to return to your body with gentleness.
Ty 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹